Ever ask, "Why do bad things happen to "good people"?"
When you think about it, something bad only happened to someone truly good - one time. I’m speaking of Jesus! He never sinned! He was perfect in all His ways. He stepped up and said … “I will become the perfect sacrifice for sin and I’ll die once for all!”
If you think or say, “God's not fair!” - I’ll have to agree with you! He didn't give you what you deserver so He could give you what you didn't deserve.
If you tend to be a controller, it doesn't mean you're a bad person...but...it wears you out trying to play God. Controllers are living...