Being a follower of Jesus is not about following a list of rules. It is about staying close to Jesus so you can learn how to love and live like Him. This is possible through His presence and power in our lives.
If you tend to be a controller, it doesn't mean you're a bad person...but...it wears you out trying to play God. Controllers are living...
We are most like our father in heaven when we are living generously! Who are you choosing to side with!