To get where God wants you to be, you must walk away from the place that is not his will. This is the way you “become blessable!”
If you tend to be a controller, it doesn't mean you're a bad person...but...it wears you out trying to play God. Controllers are living...
Your life is moving in the direction of the decisions you are making. Take your life back! Settle it! Decide to do things differently....